Don't Do That
Don't say or write (text/blog/facebook/tweet/e-mail) anything to anyone (including: child, ex-spouse, and/or potential witnesses) that you would be embarrassed to say or hear repeated to the judge.
- Angry and/or vulgar words
- False and/or unprovable accusations (hearsay or guesses)
- Threats and/or plans/desires for revenge
- Bragging about things you don't have or didn't do
Don't allow friends or family to give you legal advice.
- Advice to do or say something to your opponent
- Opinions regarding the meaning of legal documents
In part, due to the stress, it is likely that your friend did not fully or accurately understand what happened in his/her own case, and why. Even assuming they mean well, a half-truth or inaccurate advice can mislead you -- to your detriment.
Don't fail to keep detailed records.
- Make notes of all conversations (including date & time).
- Keep a journal for your attorney.
- Keep copies of all letters and documents you send.
- Print and keep all texts and e-mails.
Human memories fade, especially regarding dates, times and events. Some day you may be required to testify as to exactly what happened and when.
The text or e-mail you receive today could be important evidence tomorrow -- IF you printed and kept it. How will you prove that you sent a letter of text, if you did not print it, and keep a copy?
Don't refuse to be flexible regarding parenting times and dates.
Be willing to trade weekends and/or holidays when requested. Be sure to confirm the new agreement in writing (e-mail is fine) and keep a printed copy.